When High-Achieving Couples Fight Through Divorce:
Your Children Pay the Highest Price
Brain development during critical ages is permanently impacted by chronic stress
Anxiety and depression that require years of therapy
Academic performance plummets as emotional chaos consumes them
Inability to trust or form healthy relationships as adults
Behavioral issues and acting out that strain both households
Forced to choose sides, damaging relationships with both parents
Therapy costs that continue long after the divorce is final
Your Financial Future Is Destroyed
Court battles that drag on for 18-24 months
Asset division that favors attorneys, not families
Business valuations that undervalue what you built together
Retirement accounts drained to fund the fight
Credit damage from prolonged legal proceedings
Years of income lost to litigation stress affecting work performance
You Both Lose Your Dignity
Bitter co-parenting conflicts that last until your children are adults
Professional reputation damaged by public legal battles
Social networks fractured as friends choose sides
New relationships sabotaged by unresolved anger
Years of your life consumed by resentment instead of moving forward
Your children watching you destroy each other and learning that's how adults handle conflict
The Trauma Never Ends
Co-parenting that feels like warfare for the next 10+ years
Every holiday, birthday, and graduation poisoned by tension
Your children's weddings where you can't be in the same room
Grandchildren who grow up witnessing the ongoing hostility
A legacy of broken relationships that spans generations
There Is a Better Way: Divorce Support That Protects What Matters
Using PACT methods and specialized training in childhood development, I guide couples through divorce in a way that prioritizes your children's brain development, preserves your financial resources, and allows both of you to move forward with dignity.
What Divorce Support Looks Like:
Protect Your Children's Development
Create age-appropriate ways to explain divorce that preserve their sense of security
Develop co-parenting agreements that shield children from adult conflict
Learn how to co-regulate your nervous systems so you're not flooding your kids with stress
Build communication protocols that keep them out of the middle
Establish consistent rules and routines across both homes that create stability
Preserve Your Financial Future
Approach asset division collaboratively instead of adversarially
Keep legal involvement minimal - you handle the relationship work, they handle the paperwork
Protect retirement accounts and long-term financial security
Avoid the "divorce tax" of attorneys billing for every email and phone call
Maintain credit and financial reputation throughout the process
Move Forward with Dignity
Process your anger, grief, and betrayal in healthy ways that don't involve your children
Take accountability for your part in the marriage's end
Create closure that honors what was good while accepting what's ending
Develop co-parenting skills that will serve your family for decades
Build a foundation for new relationships when you're ready
Model mature conflict resolution that teaches your children resilience
Create a Co-Parenting Foundation That Works
Establish communication systems that minimize conflict
Develop decision-making frameworks for big choices (school, medical, activities)
Navigate holidays, birthdays, and special events without drama
Handle new romantic partners entering your children's lives
Create financial agreements for child-related expenses
Build consistency across households so children feel secure in both homes
Why This Approach Works (And Traditional Divorce Doesn't)
I'm not a divorce attorney or mediator. I'm a PACT-trained therapist who understands the neurobiology of both betrayal trauma AND childhood development.
I Know What Your Children's Brains Need Most divorce professionals focus on legal outcomes. I focus on your children's developing brains and nervous systems. These are critical years when their sense of safety and trust gets wired. I help you divorce in a way that protects that development.
I Understand High-Achieving Couples As an entrepreneur myself, I know the unique pressures you face. I understand complex financial situations, professional reputations to protect, and what it means to have a public life that requires discretion.
I'm Trained in Trauma Recovery My PACT training means I understand how betrayal and divorce trauma affect your nervous system and how that impacts your ability to make good decisions and co-parent effectively. I help you regulate so you can think clearly.
I Focus on the 20-Year Timeline Your divorce will be final in a year. Your co-parenting relationship will last for two decades. I help you make decisions that serve your family's long-term wellbeing, not just your immediate emotional needs.
I've Seen the Alternative I work with couples recovering from betrayal trauma. I've seen what happens when children grow up in high-conflict households. I've watched adult children struggle with relationships because of how their parents handled divorce. I'm committed to breaking that cycle for your family.
Two Ways to Work Together
Option 1: Divorce Support Intensive
$3,500 | Best for couples ready to create their roadmap quickly
What's Included:
2-Day Virtual Intensive (12 hours total, broken into manageable sessions over a weekend)
Complete relationship and family assessment
Age-specific guidance for explaining divorce to your children (tailored to their developmental stage)
Co-parenting framework customized to your family's needs
Financial discussion protocols that keep emotions regulated
Communication systems that minimize conflict
2-Week Follow-Up Session to ensure you're implementing effectively and address any challenges
Who This Is For:
Couples who've already decided to divorce and need a clear path forward
Parents who want to protect their children from the fallout
High-achievers who need efficient, outcome-focused work
Couples ready to commit to doing this right the first time
Timeline: One weekend + follow-up = divorce roadmap complete in 2 weeks
Investment: $3,500 (Compare to $30K-50K in contested divorce legal fees)
Option 2: Ongoing Divorce Support
$400/session | Best for couples who need ongoing guidance through the process
What's Included:
Bi-weekly 90-minute sessions for 6 months (12-13 sessions total)
Gradual implementation of co-parenting systems with real-time troubleshooting
Ongoing nervous system regulation support as you navigate triggers and conflicts
Season-by-season planning (holidays, birthdays, summer schedules)
New partner integration guidance when the time comes
Continuous adjustment as your children's needs evolve
Who This Is For:
Couples navigating a separation period before final divorce
Parents who need support implementing changes over time
High-conflict couples who need consistent accountability
Families with complex custody or financial situations
Timeline: 6 months of bi-weekly support = $4,800-5,200 total investment
Investment: $400 per session (Still a fraction of what contested divorce costs)
Which Option Is Right for You?
Choose the Intensive if:
You've made the decision and want a clear roadmap immediately
You're both committed to protecting your children and working collaboratively
You prefer intensive, focused work over gradual implementation
You want to minimize the number of months this takes
Choose Ongoing Support if:
You're in a trial separation and haven't finalized your decision
You need consistent guidance as you implement changes in real-time
Your situation is high-conflict and requires regular accountability
You want support navigating the first year of co-parenting
Not sure? Schedule a consultation and we'll determine the best fit for your family.
Your Children Are Watching How You Handle This
Every decision you make right now is teaching them how adults handle conflict, disappointment, and change.
You can teach them that when things get hard, people destroy each other. Or you can teach them that even when love ends, respect and dignity remain.
The choice is yours. But the window is closing.
Children's brains are incredibly plastic during ages 5-10. What gets wired during these years becomes their operating system for life. The way you divorce right now will either create resilience or create trauma.
You cannot undo this. You get one chance to do this right.
Ready to Protect Your Children's Future?
Your children's emotional health and your financial future don't have to be casualties of your divorce.
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In our first conversation, we'll discuss your family's situation, your children's ages and needs, and determine which approach is right for you. You'll leave with clarity about your next steps and hope that this doesn't have to destroy your family.
The way you divorce will impact your children for the rest of their lives. Make sure it's a decision you can be proud of.
Frequently Asked Questions
How is this different from mediation? Mediators focus on legal agreements. I focus on your children's emotional wellbeing and your family's long-term health. We address the nervous system regulation, communication patterns, and co-parenting skills that make those legal agreements actually work in real life.
What if my spouse isn't willing to do this collaboratively? If there's active abuse or safety concerns, this approach isn't appropriate. But if your spouse is simply angry, hurt, or resistant, that's exactly what I help with. I create a space where both people can be heard and regulated enough to make good decisions.
Will you tell us whether we should divorce? No. You've already made that decision. My job is to help you divorce in a way that protects your children and preserves what can be preserved. If you're not sure whether to divorce, the "Pre-Divorce Decision Intensive" might be more appropriate.
Do we both have to attend every session? Yes. Divorce support requires both parents' full engagement. If one person isn't willing to participate, this approach won't work.
What if we can't afford this? I understand these are significant investments. However, compare this to $30K-50K in contested divorce legal fees, plus years of therapy costs for traumatized children. This is a fraction of what getting it wrong will cost you. Many couples use tax refunds, bonuses, or reallocate money they would have spent on attorneys.
How quickly can we start? Most couples begin within 2-3 weeks of the initial consultation. For intensives, we'll find a weekend that works for your schedule within the next 4-6 weeks.